Keeping it real, some recovery days are just treacle days.

Not every day is an amazing one, some require love.

I had one of 'those' kinds of days today. The kind of days I used to have a lot of, and the kind of days I never used to notice.

Today I had one of those days when I just felt a bit 'meh' a bit 'unsettled' a bit 'I had expectations to try and do a bit of writing and creative thinking and it didnt quite happen and so I was a bit frustrated' days.. and then I got frustrated, because I was frustrated....

I sometimes call them 'treacle days' - just a bit stodgy, for no real reason, when nothing happens, just that there's an inner fight.

But I realise, that I dont get them very often. Which is a nice thing to be reminded of..and thats why they're unusual and help me stay a little in check, a little moment to remember my vulnerable new humanness with all its emotions having space to play.

But the reason I get them at all, is that I realise that I am in a good place generally, and that not quite every day can feel calm, can feel easy - especially creatively easy, not every day feels like flow. But thats the thing. Its because I now I feel more feelings, that I can sense that there's something not quite right.

It may be absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things, not a big problem, but thats not what my inner critic wants to hear...... and when it starts to latch onto the tiniest of anxieties, or self doubts, or moments...

The everyday 'recovery' from childhood trauma, and the associated behaviours, continues to be a daily, ongoing piece by piece listening, attending and loving these wounded parts, even if they might just be a bit of frustration......unsettled......

And so, in a way I realise that I am grateful for the treacle days or treacles moments, because its a part of me thats alive, its apart of me thats allowed and safe to be wanting to tell me something, or do something.

What I used to have was continual un-dealt with bottled up emotions so that every day was painted in survival stony grey. No treacle days as there was no contrast, just stoic grey, avoidance and dissociation and self soothing one day to the next.

And back today, what I stopped myself from doing, which I have done in the past is attach the frustration with negative self shame talk like this:

'Ive done all this therapy and healing, I shouldn't feel like this'

but thats not the reality is it. Most days are good, most days I feel alive, whole and in the main secure.

But there are treacle days. Even, actually especially in the process of learning to be our loving whole selves....

And treacle days or hours that require a little attention, a little love, and little bit of gratefulness, for the feelings, and thoughts themselves.

So , instead of continuing the inner self fight, I moved, I went out, and I took myself off out for a walk instead, breathed windy air and sunshine, watched ospreys land, and watched as the lizards moved around my feet.